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It’s great to be back and blogging again.  I recently did a promotion with Gilt City and have taken on a bunch of new clients.  I love fresh blood!  I love training people I’ve never trained before because they are a blank slate and, if they choose, they can make great changes.

So often I watch people hold themselves back.  That’s why I say fitness is 98% mental.  I offered a limited number of large packages called The Body Transformation in this promotion with Gilt City.  It’s so interesting because I did not expect this package to sell the way it did.  I offered a 3-pack, 6-pack, and the Body Transformation 48-pack for complete body and diet overhaul.  I had to cap the big package at 5.  I was shocked to find out that, not only had the 5 sold out in the first few days, there 14 people on a wait list for it!

As I think about it, I realize it makes total sense.  If I told you in 3-4 months time you could transform your body and money was not an object, of course you’d do it, right?!  The catch is you have to do everything I tell you to do, change your eating habits, and show up ready to work out 4-5 days per week.  Think you can do it?

What I found out firsthand is that people THINK they want it, but most aren’t prepared to do what it takes to get there.  Case in point, 2 of my 48-packers  were virtually identical on paper – women around 30 years old looking to lose body fat (15-25 pounds between the two of them).  One woman has the benefit of a wedding date 3 months away while the other did not.  Guess who’s working out hard, doing everything I tell her and guess who dropped out after 2 sessions?  Yup.  The woman with the date set in stone is busting her butt and the other one decided it’d be easier to do pilates and pretend she’s getting in shape.

I’ve said it before: having a clear and defined goal is critical to fitness success.  The girl who quit THOUGHT she wanted the Body Transformation — and it sounds good when you call it that.  But it requires focus, commitment, and dedication!  I’ve been doing this a long enough time to have a sense when these things aren’t going to work out and I had that feeling very early on.  When she was so busy she couldn’t fit herself into my schedule – first clue.  If you want it, you’ll make the time.  Period.

Then she complained of aches and pains all over.  Now, I don’t mean to minimize the discomfort you’ll feel when overhauling your physical body, but if you’ve allowed yourself to de-condition for a number of years, IT IS GOING TO HURT THE FIRST FEW TIMES BACK!  Sorry.  I happen to have a lot of experience with this, so I am able to know just how far to take someone in the first few workouts.  But the fact remains, you are going to be pushing the boundaries of what’s comfortable.  And you have to trust the person you’ve asked to take you there.

She asked me, How do you know the difference between discomfort from working hard and actually hurting yourself?  I don’t want to hurt myself.  I said, I don’t want to hurt you either.  (Not good for my reputation).  But you have to understand that you have never worked out like this and it is going to be uncomfortable at first.  If you really want to see your body change, you’re going to have leave your comfort zone.  You’re also going to have to trust that I’ve been doing this for 14 years and I am an expert at this and I know what I’m doing.  I am constantly monitoring the way you are moving and the verbal cues you are giving me to assess how hard I’m pushing an otherwise healthy 30 year old woman.  Frankly, I’m feeling a lot of resistance and doubt and it makes it hard for me to do my job which, in my view and based on our earlier conversations, is to change the composition and shape of your body.  I’m wondering if you really realize how much commitment and effort this will require.

Too harsh?  I have to tell it straight.  I refuse to take this woman for 48 sessions and not see a change – does neither one of us any good.  Within hours of that conversation she emailed to tell me she got a refund.  My point is that many people THINK they want it, but a very small percentage are willing to do what it takes to get there.

Oh, and the difference between injuries and discomfort.  It’s sharp and shooting vs general ache and fatigue.  If you are experiencing a stabbing, shooting pain when performing a particular movement, that’s a pretty good indication something may be amiss.  If you are experience a general discomfort and achey fatigue, well, that’s the price you’re going to have to pay for that beautiful body.

Just telling it to you straight. 

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